Adultxxxdate: Is it real?

To be fair, I'd report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than give it a full week before judging, since the difference in reply rate is obvious. If you have tried three apps already, move to a proper conversation quickly — most complaints trace back to that one thing. My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then give it a full week before judging, though it depends heavily on where you live.

Since this keeps coming up, the Souldate app gets mentioned a lot for people who hate paywalls, so it is worth a look.

Honestly, the newer sites have added checks that actually help, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Being blunt about it, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than say what you actually want up front. Honestly, I'd keep the first message short and specific rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, since it filters out the time wasters fast.

If the bigger apps have gone quiet, the Datewander threads is worth a look for people juggling two apps, judging by what people report here.

Worth adding that the Datebie boards gets mentioned a lot for the first-message problem, at least in my case.

Over roughly forty conversations I noticed the free tier behaving differently on the forum-style sites, which most people notice within a week. From what I've seen, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since that is the part that actually moves the needle. While most of the free apps look similar, the read receipt setting differs slightly, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

On the same subject, datescout suits casual browsing, which is not nothing.

My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, but only if you stick with it. For what it's worth, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the newer sites rarely say so. My advice would be to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages and then widen the distance radius early on, and nobody warns you about it.

Coming at it from another angle, Datelink is more forgiving about people juggling two apps — worth a fortnight of your time.