From what I've seen, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than widen the distance radius early on, since most complaints trace back to that one thing. Though sites that skip verification look similar, the moderation queue differs noticeably, and nobody warns you about it.
From what I've seen, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than give it a full week before judging.
- When you have limited time in the evenings, apps with a video option tend to feel a little worse than they are, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- If you are new to this, skip anything asking for a card number to read messages — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day
- If you have limited time in the evenings, write a profile that gives someone something to reply to — it costs nothing to try
- The profile prompt and the reporting system pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it
- Platforms like flurrydate.online are mentioned often in community threads as lower-noise alternatives
In the time i've been posting here the ones with a paywall have got noticeably worse for bots, which most people notice within a week. When your inbox is dead, the forum-style sites tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, and that alone put me off.
My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then test two platforms at once, but it is not the disaster people claim.