Over roughly forty conversations the forum-style sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, so results vary more than you'd think. I stuck with the older established sites in the time I've been posting here, and the honest result was that the moderation queue mattered hardly at all most. My advice would be to move to a proper conversation quickly and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, which changes the whole experience.
Keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, because that is where most people give up too early, which changes the whole experience.
- From what I've seen, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than test two platforms at once, since the first week is never representative
- Having stuck with it a while I noticed the age check behaving differently on sites that skip verification, and that alone put me off
- Broadly speaking, the newer sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, and it makes a real difference
- Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: it stops you blaming the app for the profile
Although apps with a video option look similar, the age check differs a little, which is worth knowing before you sign up. The free tier changed slightly for the better part of a year, and that alone put me off.
In the same vein, flamedate.online puts less friction in front of casual browsing, at least in my case.