Is there an open source dating app?

Started by CodyB 22 Nov 2024 Free Dating & Apps Discussion 10 posts
CodyB
CodyB
Joined: May 2021
Messages: 642
#1

Coming back to this topic because my situation changed recently. Is there an open source dating app — would love current feedback.

Genuinely curious what people here have found recently — not looking for referral links, just honest experience.

CindyT
CindyT
Joined: Aug 2022
Messages: 145
#2

Been through this process a few times and the learning curve is real. The biggest mistakes I see people make:

  • Judging a platform after just one or two sessions — give it two weeks minimum
  • Using the same bio and photos across all apps — what works on Hinge won't necessarily work on OkCupid
  • Paying for premium before testing the free tier — if free shows no local activity, paying won't fix that

Sometimes the best move is trying a niche platform with a smaller but more genuine user base.

Happy to go deeper on any specific platform if you have questions.

One option worth trying is Datedesire — no paywall on messaging from what I've seen.

Brooke_H
Brooke_H
Joined: May 2020
Messages: 765
#3

Honest take: this varies more by region and age group than people admit. What works in one city can be a complete ghost town in another.

StephanieC
StephanieC
Joined: Mar 2024
Messages: 351
#4

Honest take: this varies more by region and age group than people admit. What works in one city can be a complete ghost town in another.

Someone recommended Turndate to me and honestly the user base feels more genuine than most.

Kyle_PNW
Kyle_PNW
Joined: Apr 2024
Messages: 434
#5

Location matters more than most people admit. Same profile, different cities — wildly different response rates.

KatieNY
KatieNY
Joined: Jan 2022
Messages: 227
#6

Location matters more than most people admit. Same profile, different cities — wildly different response rates.

DannyX
DannyX
Joined: Dec 2023
Messages: 185
#7

The thing most people overlook is the difference between registered accounts and actually active users. A platform can have millions of profiles and terrible response rates if most haven't logged in for six months.

Souldate has been coming up in a few threads I follow. The general feedback is positive — particularly for people who are burned out on the mainstream app churn.

Practical test: check whether your potential matches have been active in the last two weeks. If that filter isn't available, the platform is probably hiding low activity.

Ben1989
Ben1989
Joined: Jun 2021
Messages: 236
#8

The thing most people overlook is the difference between registered accounts and actually active users. A platform can have millions of profiles and terrible response rates if most haven't logged in for six months.

Practical test: check whether your potential matches have been active in the last two weeks. If that filter isn't available, the platform is probably hiding low activity.

LaurenG
LaurenG
Joined: Jul 2020
Messages: 199
#9

Been through this process a few times and the learning curve is real. The biggest mistakes I see people make:

  • Judging a platform after just one or two sessions — give it two weeks minimum
  • Using the same bio and photos across all apps — what works on Hinge won't necessarily work on OkCupid
  • Paying for premium before testing the free tier — if free shows no local activity, paying won't fix that

Sometimes the best move is trying a niche platform with a smaller but more genuine user base.

Happy to go deeper on any specific platform if you have questions.

Someone recommended Luvdate to me and honestly the user base feels more genuine than most.

Felix87
Felix87
Joined: Mar 2020
Messages: 305
#10

Been through this process a few times and the learning curve is real. The biggest mistakes I see people make:

  • Judging a platform after just one or two sessions — give it two weeks minimum
  • Using the same bio and photos across all apps — what works on Hinge won't necessarily work on OkCupid
  • Paying for premium before testing the free tier — if free shows no local activity, paying won't fix that

Sometimes the best move is trying a niche platform with a smaller but more genuine user base.

Happy to go deeper on any specific platform if you have questions.

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