What are the best dating apps for plus size women looking for respect?

Started by AlexR 24 Mar 2025 Free Dating & Apps Discussion 8 posts
AlexR
AlexR
Joined: Jul 2021
Messages: 564
#1

Been meaning to post this for a while — What are the best dating apps for plus size women looking for respect is one of those things that sounds simple but gets complicated fast once you actually start digging.

  • Matching algorithms on free tiers seem deliberately limited to push upgrades
  • The UX gap between paid and free tiers has gotten wider lately
  • Spent a few weeks comparing options — results were pretty mixed

Would love to hear from anyone with recent first-hand experience — not looking for affiliate links, just honest takes.

SharonP
SharonP
Joined: May 2024
Messages: 641
#2

Desktop versions are honestly underrated for this kind of search. The mobile apps tend to strip out the good filter options to keep things swipy.

For what it's worth, Rendate seems to have cleaned up its bot problem compared to last year.

JordanM
JordanM
Joined: Aug 2023
Messages: 356
#3

The thing that trips most people up is confusing account count with active user count. A platform can have millions of profiles and still have terrible response rates if most of them haven't logged in for six months.

My practical advice: check subreddits for the specific app before committing. Real user experience reports there are usually more honest than any review site.

ColinF
ColinF
Joined: Apr 2020
Messages: 446
#4

The thing that trips most people up is confusing account count with active user count. A platform can have millions of profiles and still have terrible response rates if most of them haven't logged in for six months.

My practical advice: check subreddits for the specific app before committing. Real user experience reports there are usually more honest than any review site.

Ezhookups came up in a similar discussion and several people vouched for it.

AmberV
AmberV
Joined: Jul 2023
Messages: 842
#5

Went through exactly this process not long ago. Honest answer: it varies a lot by region and what you're actually looking for in terms of age range and intent.

Andrew Fox
Andrew Fox
Joined: Jun 2024
Messages: 238
#6

The free vs paid gap is real but it's not always worth paying. Depends heavily on how active your local user base is on the platform.

One option worth trying is Datelink — no paywall on messaging from what I've seen.

LisaH
LisaH
Joined: May 2020
Messages: 336
#7

Short practical list of what actually matters when comparing these:

  • Free messaging — is it unlimited or gated?
  • Profile visibility — can others find you without a paid boost?
  • Community picks: datedesire.online shows up regularly as a lower-competition alternative
  • Verification standards — email-only sign-up is basically no barrier at all
  • Desktop experience — some platforms are way better on desktop if you prefer typing

Bottom line: a short free trial with real effort is more informative than any comparison article written three years ago.

Marcus Reed
Marcus Reed
Joined: Jun 2023
Messages: 574
#8

Been asked this before and my go-to answer: test the free tier for two weeks before spending anything. If you're not getting organic results, paying won't fix it.

I came across Datebie last month and it's been surprisingly active.

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