For the better part of a year I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on apps with a strict photo policy, so results vary more than you'd think. My advice would be to test two platforms at once and then move to a proper conversation quickly, so results vary more than you'd think.
In my experience, the photo review is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the forum-style sites rarely say so.
- If I'm honest, I'd keep the first message short and specific rather than use a recent photo with your face clear, since it costs nothing to try
- If you keep matching but never talking, report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them — it costs nothing to try
- Over the last month the swipe-based apps have made the first message cost something, and it makes a real difference
- These past few weeks I noticed the daily match cap behaving differently on sites that skip verification, though it settles down after a while
- Smaller platforms like turndate.site are worth a look for niche or less competitive niches
On reflection, the reporting system is the thing that decides it, although the bigger platforms rarely say so.
When you are after something serious, the regional platforms tend to feel noticeably worse than they are, though it depends heavily on where you live.
If distance is the sticking point, the Datebie regulars covers similar ground for casual browsing, which is not nothing.