Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day.
- Over the last month I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on sites that skip verification, but only if you stick with it
- The awkward truth is that the newer sites have got noticeably worse for bots after a slow start
- Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to give it a full week before judging: it filters out the time wasters fast
- When you keep matching but never talking, the ones with a paywall tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, though it depends heavily on where you live
On reflection, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since most complaints trace back to that one thing.
On reflection, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than say what you actually want up front.
For what it's worth, DatingFly works noticeably better for quieter weeknights — worth a fortnight of your time.