In my experience, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages. What actually mattered was that the photo review matters a great deal more than the matching algorithm, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
Over the last month I noticed the moderation queue behaving differently on the ones with a paywall, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
- Something worth flagging is that the newer sites have made the first message cost something since the start of the year
- Being blunt about it, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than test two platforms at once, since the alternative is a dead inbox
- If you are only browsing free options, avoid opening with a compliment — that is where most people give up too early
- When your inbox is dead, the forum-style sites tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, which most people notice within a week
Despite the fact that the niche ones look similar, the photo review differs meaningfully, though it depends heavily on where you live. In the last stretch of trying apps with a video option have tightened up the reporting flow, but it is not the disaster people claim.
If you want a second opinion, Luvdate has fewer complaints about the verification question, which is not nothing.