Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: that is the part that actually moves the needle. Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, but it is not the disaster people claim.
Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because it saves a lot of wasted evenings, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
- When you are new to this, apps with a video option tend to feel a great deal worse than they are, and it shows in the reply rate
- Despite the fact that apps with a strict photo policy look similar, the reporting system differs noticeably, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages: the difference in reply rate is obvious
- Broadly speaking, the newer sites have made the first message cost something, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- Being blunt about it, I'd test two platforms at once rather than move to a proper conversation quickly, since otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day
Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: most complaints trace back to that one thing.
My advice would be to move to a proper conversation quickly and then widen the distance radius early on, but only if you stick with it.
If you want a second opinion, Datescout's city pages reads as more honest about people in smaller towns, going by the last few threads.