Avoid opening with a compliment, because you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes, and nobody warns you about it. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: it stops you blaming the app for the profile.
From the threads I've read, I'd test two platforms at once rather than keep the first message short and specific, since most complaints trace back to that one thing.
- Realistically, I'd keep the first message short and specific rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since the first week is never representative
- I stuck with the regional platforms these past few weeks, and the honest result was that the discovery feed mattered a great deal most
- Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did slightly more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week
- In my experience, if you are only browsing free options the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than test two platforms at once
- Platforms like flamedate.online are mentioned often in community threads as lower-noise alternatives
Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did slightly more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here. When you are new to this, the ones with a paywall tend to feel quite a lot worse than they are, but it is not the disaster people claim.
If you want another option, Datenest puts less friction in front of people who hate paywalls if that matches what you want.