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Started by SusanB 5 Jul 2026 Niche & Community 10 posts Last reply 7 Jul 2026 #a#d#e#f
SusanB, DateBound member
Joined May 2022
949 messages
#1

Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because it stops you blaming the app for the profile, and it makes a real difference. What is the best gay chat roulette dirty alternative out there — seems like a simple question but I keep getting mixed answers depending on where I look.

Been seeing a few names pop up lately — datescout.site seems to show up in a lot of comparison posts, though I haven't fully tested it myself yet.

The free tier changed marginally over roughly forty conversations, which explains a lot of the complaints here. To be fair, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than check the free tier limits before you commit, since the alternative is a dead inbox.

Mike_DTX, DateBound member
Joined May 2022
657 messages
#2

On reflection, if you keep getting the same profiles the answer is usually to avoid opening with a compliment rather than give it a full week before judging.

  • If I'm honest, the bigger platforms have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, so treat the reviews with caution
  • While people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: it costs nothing to try
  • The block list and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, but it is not the disaster people claim
  • After a slow start the niche ones have improved the filtering a fair bit, which explains a lot of the complaints here

Worth saying that the decision to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight did considerably more for me than switching platform, and it shows in the reply rate. Having stuck with it a while I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the swipe-based apps, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

Worth saying that the decision to give it a full week before judging did noticeably more for me than switching platform, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

Worth adding that the Flamedate forums keeps getting recommended for the local side of things, though your mileage will vary.

Garrett P, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2021
437 messages
#3

Over roughly forty conversations the niche ones have got noticeably worse for bots, and nobody warns you about it. If you have limited time in the evenings, keep the first message short and specific — that is where most people give up too early.

Since this keeps coming up, the Ezhookups boards is more forgiving about people in smaller towns, so it is worth a look.

GrantE, DateBound member
Joined Feb 2019
861 messages
#4

Keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, which is worth knowing before you sign up. The discovery feed changed noticeably since the start of the year, but it is not the disaster people claim.

My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, but it is not the disaster people claim.

  • When the replies dry up after one message, the older established sites tend to feel marginally worse than they are, which changes the whole experience
  • What surprised me was that the chat-first sites have dropped the feature everyone used over roughly forty conversations
  • The thing that finally clicked was that the older established sites have tightened up the reporting flow these past few weeks
  • Broadly speaking, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than give it a full week before judging
  • Going by my own attempts, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to widen the distance radius early on rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them

Worth saying that the decision to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight did a great deal more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week.

The boost system and the read receipt setting pull in opposite directions, though it settles down after a while.

Madison Reed, DateBound member
Joined Apr 2021
659 messages
#5

When you are in a smaller town, the swipe-based apps tend to feel a great deal worse than they are, but only if you stick with it. Something worth flagging is that the search filter setup matters noticeably more than the moderation queue, but it is not the disaster people claim.

Granted the swipe-based apps look similar, the daily match cap differs hardly at all, and it makes a real difference. Worth saying that the decision to avoid opening with a compliment did a little more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference.

DanaL, DateBound member
Joined Jun 2021
206 messages
#6

The verification step and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, and that alone put me off. The boost system changed noticeably over the last month, and it shows in the reply rate.

My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then check the free tier limits before you commit, so treat the reviews with caution. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

Move to a proper conversation quickly, because the first week is never representative, and nobody warns you about it. I stuck with the swipe-based apps in the time I've been posting here, and the honest result was that the read receipt setting mattered marginally most.

If you want another option, the Luvdate forums does more than most for video-first chat, judging by what people report here.

Jessica_L, DateBound member
Joined Jun 2024
297 messages
#7

After giving it a proper go the ones people keep recommending have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, and that alone put me off. Having tried most of these, the regional platforms have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, but it is not the disaster people claim.

Going by last month's threads, DatingFly keeps getting recommended for anyone after something slower, which is not nothing.

CalebT, DateBound member
Joined May 2019
829 messages
#8

Even if most of the free apps look similar, the distance radius differs noticeably, so treat the reviews with caution. The pattern I keep seeing is that the regional platforms have quietly changed how that works in the last stretch of trying.

Speaking personally, I'd report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since that is where most people give up too early. Broadly speaking, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to.

From the threads I've read, the newer sites have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, though it depends heavily on where you live. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

In the same vein, flurrydate puts less friction in front of people juggling two apps, at least in my case.

Emma_Chi, DateBound member
Joined Dec 2021
770 messages
#9

If you keep getting the same profiles, test two platforms at once — that is where most people give up too early. The distance radius changed hardly at all over roughly forty conversations, and that alone put me off.

Hailey_P, DateBound member
Joined Aug 2020
296 messages
#10

My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then widen the distance radius early on, which is worth knowing before you sign up. My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then use a recent photo with your face clear, so results vary more than you'd think.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the matching algorithm matters slightly more than the search filter setup, so results vary more than you'd think.

  • Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes
  • Realistically, the verification step is the thing that decides it, even if the niche ones rarely say so
  • If you are after something serious, check the free tier limits before you commit — the first week is never representative
  • Speaking personally, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, since it costs nothing to try
  • rendate.site — keeps showing up in forums as a newer option

Since the last round of app updates the niche ones have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, though it depends heavily on where you live.

The daily match cap and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, so treat the reviews with caution.

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