My advice would be to test two platforms at once and then widen the distance radius early on, but only if you stick with it.
- Since the start of the year I noticed the moderation queue behaving differently on the forum-style sites, though it settles down after a while
- The profile prompt and the read receipt setting pull in opposite directions, though it depends heavily on where you live
- These past few weeks the forum-style sites have made the free version harder to use, though it settles down after a while
- Worth saying that the decision to use a recent photo with your face clear did somewhat more for me than switching platform, which changes the whole experience
- If you keep matching but never talking, say what you actually want up front — the difference in reply rate is obvious
Going by my own attempts, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than keep the first message short and specific, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings. Worth saying that the decision to give it a full week before judging did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, and nobody warns you about it.
When you are after something serious, the niche ones tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
Going by last month's threads, datewander keeps getting recommended for people who hate paywalls.