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Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did somewhat more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live. My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then avoid opening with a compliment, though it settles down after a while. Broadly speaking, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than widen the distance radius early on, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings. Having tried most of these, the regional platforms have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, which most people notice within a week. On reflection, the daily match cap is the thing that decides it, although the forum-style sites rarely say so.

Since the last round of app updates the ones with a paywall have tightened up the reporting flow, which most people notice within a week. To be fair, the bigger platforms have started throttling messages, and it makes a real difference. If you want something casual, move to a proper conversation quickly — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. Having stuck with it a while I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on most of the free apps, but it is not the disaster people claim. Something worth flagging is that the moderation queue matters slightly more than the block list, and it makes a real difference.

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The pattern I keep seeing is that the distance radius matters massively more than the messaging limit, but only if you stick with it. Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to read the last few pages of a thread before asking: the first week is never representative. I stuck with the forum-style sites throughout most of last year, and the honest result was that the moderation queue mattered meaningfully most. From what I've seen, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to give it a full week before judging rather than read the last few pages of a thread before asking.

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