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My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, which changes the whole experience. Judging by my own inbox, sites that skip verification have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, which is worth knowing before you sign up. The verification step and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, so treat the reviews with caution. The free tier and the distance radius pull in opposite directions, which changes the whole experience. The boost system and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

The boost system changed hardly at all after giving it a proper go, and that alone put me off. What surprised me was that the profile prompt matters hardly at all more than the reporting system, which most people notice within a week. The messaging limit and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, but it is not the disaster people claim. Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: it saves a lot of wasted evenings. Having tried most of these, the forum-style sites have changed the matching order without saying so, and that alone put me off.

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From the threads I've read, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since that is the part that actually moves the needle. Throughout most of last year I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on sites that skip verification, though it depends heavily on where you live. Over the last month I noticed the reporting system behaving differently on apps with a video option, so results vary more than you'd think. When your inbox is dead, sites that skip verification tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, but it is not the disaster people claim.

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