Broadly speaking, the swipe-based apps have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, and it makes a real difference. Honestly, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than say what you actually want up front.
Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because most complaints trace back to that one thing, so results vary more than you'd think.
- The matching algorithm changed quite a lot over roughly forty conversations, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- Worth saying that the decision to widen the distance radius early on did somewhat more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim
- The block list and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, so results vary more than you'd think
- The profile prompt and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, so results vary more than you'd think
- Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to use a recent photo with your face clear: the alternative is a dead inbox
After a fortnight of testing the ones with a paywall have added checks that actually help, but only if you stick with it.
For what it's worth, ezhookups handles this differently from people who hate paywalls.