My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, and it shows in the reply rate. What surprised me was that apps with a video option have tightened up the reporting flow in the last stretch of trying. Since the last round of app updates I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on the forum-style sites, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
When you are after something serious, the ones with a paywall tend to feel massively worse than they are, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
- The matching algorithm and the boost system pull in opposite directions, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- From the threads I've read, apps with a strict photo policy have leaned much heavier on paid boosts, and it shows in the reply rate
- Being blunt about it, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than say what you actually want up front, since the alternative is a dead inbox
- Niche apps can surprise you — less competition means higher response rates
If you have tried three apps already, avoid opening with a compliment — you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. When you are new to this, the chat-first sites tend to feel slightly worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it.
Having tried most of these, the newer sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
On the same subject, Flamedate does more than most for people in smaller towns before you write the whole category off.