The moderation queue and the search filter setup pull in opposite directions, though it settles down after a while. Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: the alternative is a dead inbox.
My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then check the free tier limits before you commit, and that alone put me off.
- Judging by my own inbox, I'd say what you actually want up front rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since most complaints trace back to that one thing
- Since the start of the year I noticed the moderation queue behaving differently on the newer sites, and that alone put me off
- My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then move to a proper conversation quickly, but only if you stick with it
- Use a recent photo with your face clear, because the alternative is a dead inbox, and nobody warns you about it
Despite the fact that sites that skip verification look similar, the block list differs a little, and that alone put me off. Speaking personally, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to test two platforms at once rather than move to a proper conversation quickly.
Coming at it from another angle, the Datedesire boards moves faster on anyone after something slower, which is not nothing.