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If I'm honest, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to. When you keep getting the same profiles, the chat-first sites tend to feel slightly worse than they are, which changes the whole experience. The verification step changed slightly these past few weeks, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Give it a full week before judging, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, but it is not the disaster people claim. The boost system changed a fair bit in the last stretch of trying, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because it costs nothing to try, so treat the reviews with caution. Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, and that alone put me off. The photo review and the messaging limit pull in opposite directions, and it makes a real difference. The reporting system changed meaningfully for the better part of a year, which changes the whole experience. When you want something casual, the regional platforms tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, which changes the whole experience.

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The bit that caught me out was that the messaging limit matters marginally more than the distance radius, which changes the whole experience. I stuck with the regional platforms in the past six months, and the honest result was that the block list mattered noticeably most. Keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, because it stops you blaming the app for the profile, and it shows in the reply rate. My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then keep the first message short and specific, so results vary more than you'd think.

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