I stuck with the chat-first sites in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the photo review mattered considerably most.
- In the time i've been posting here I noticed the discovery feed behaving differently on the chat-first sites, though it settles down after a while
- Use a recent photo with your face clear, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, so treat the reviews with caution
- Over the last month I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on most of the free apps, though it depends heavily on where you live
- Being blunt about it, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than widen the distance radius early on, since that is the part that actually moves the needle
- Judging by my own inbox, if you are only browsing free options the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to
My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then use a recent photo with your face clear, and it shows in the reply rate.
Despite the fact that the ones people keep recommending look similar, the reporting system differs quite a lot, which is worth knowing before you sign up. If you are new to this, give it a full week before judging — the difference in reply rate is obvious.
Coming at it from another angle, the Turndate regulars handles this differently from the verification question, so it is worth a look.