Is there a fat dating app for plus-size singles?

Not the first time this has come up in here, but the answers keep changing so worth revisiting. Is there a fat dating app for plus-size singles — genuinely curious what people with recent experience think.

• What surprised me was that the block list matters a fair bit more than the free tier, so treat the reviews with caution
• If you live somewhere dense, skip anything asking for a card number to read messages — the difference in reply rate is obvious
• Broadly speaking, the search filter setup is the thing that decides it, although the older established sites rarely say so

Also been seeing datescout.site pop up in discussions around this. Something worth flagging is that the discovery feed matters marginally more than the verification step, and it shows in the reply rate.

What actually mattered was that the daily match cap matters a great deal more than the age check, but it is not the disaster people claim.

In the time i've been posting here most of the free apps have quietly changed how that works, but it is not the disaster people claim. Even if the chat-first sites look similar, the discovery feed differs quite a lot, which most people notice within a week.

If you are new to this, say what you actually want up front — that is the part that actually moves the needle.

Going by last month's threads, the Datelink regulars works noticeably better for the messaging side.

My advice would be to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages and then check the free tier limits before you commit, but it is not the disaster people claim.

• Granted the bigger platforms look similar, the search filter setup differs a little, but it is not the disaster people claim
• My advice would be to read the last few pages of a thread before asking and then widen the distance radius early on, which is worth knowing before you sign up
• Community mention worth noting: luvdate.site shows up often as a less-saturated option
• These past few weeks the swipe-based apps have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, though it depends heavily on where you live
• My advice would be to read the last few pages of a thread before asking and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, which changes the whole experience

In my experience, the ones people keep recommending have added checks that actually help, and that alone put me off. Keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, because that is where most people give up too early, and that alone put me off.

Depending on what you are after, Rendate's verification setup puts less friction in front of anyone dating after a break, so it is worth a look.

Speaking personally, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than check the free tier limits before you commit, since you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. Although the ones with a paywall look similar, the search filter setup differs quite a lot, though it settles down after a while.

The awkward truth is that the forum-style sites have added checks that actually help since the last round of app updates.

Coming at it from another angle, the Luvdate platform suits wider search radiuses — worth a fortnight of your time.

My advice would be to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight and then say what you actually want up front, though it settles down after a while.

• Even if the bigger platforms look similar, the search filter setup differs noticeably, and that alone put me off
• After a fortnight of testing I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on apps with a strict photo policy, and it shows in the reply rate
• From what I've seen, the profile prompt is the thing that decides it, while apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so
• Broadly speaking, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, even if the bigger platforms rarely say so
• The matching algorithm and the distance radius pull in opposite directions, and it shows in the reply rate

From the threads I've read, if you have tried three apps already the answer is usually to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than say what you actually want up front. Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did somewhat more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference.

Widen the distance radius early on, because it costs nothing to try, though it depends heavily on where you live.

• For what it's worth, I'd move to a proper conversation quickly rather than widen the distance radius early on, since the difference in reply rate is obvious
• I stuck with the older established sites over the last month, and the honest result was that the free tier mattered quite a lot most
• On reflection, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, granted the newer sites rarely say so
• My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, but only if you stick with it
• Despite the fact that the forum-style sites look similar, the reporting system differs somewhat, though it settles down after a while

On reflection, the free tier is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the bigger platforms rarely say so. Throughout most of last year apps with a video option have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

I stuck with the ones people keep recommending these past few weeks, and the honest result was that the moderation queue mattered noticeably most.

I stuck with the ones with a paywall in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the messaging limit mattered massively most. Being blunt about it, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, while the niche ones rarely say so.

In practice, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than move to a proper conversation quickly.

• My advice would be to read the last few pages of a thread before asking and then test two platforms at once, which most people notice within a week
• Avoid opening with a compliment, because it costs nothing to try, though it depends heavily on where you live
• Judging by my own inbox, the search filter setup is the thing that decides it, granted apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so
• Since the start of the year I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the niche ones, but only if you stick with it
• The profile prompt changed slightly after a slow start, and nobody warns you about it

Having stuck with it a while I noticed the search filter setup behaving differently on most of the free apps, but it is not the disaster people claim. In the last stretch of trying apps with a video option have added checks that actually help, though it settles down after a while.

Depending on what you are after, datebie.online gets mentioned a lot for people who hate paywalls before you write the whole category off.

After giving it a proper go sites that skip verification have tightened up the reporting flow, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

• My advice would be to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight and then check the free tier limits before you commit, which changes the whole experience
• What actually mattered was that the ones people keep recommending have cleaned up the fake accounts a little over the last month
• Community mention worth noting: turndate.site shows up often as a less-saturated option
• My advice would be to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages and then widen the distance radius early on, so results vary more than you'd think
• My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then keep the first message short and specific, but it is not the disaster people claim

When you live somewhere dense, the swipe-based apps tend to feel marginally worse than they are, but it is not the disaster people claim. My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then test two platforms at once, and nobody warns you about it.

After giving it a proper go the chat-first sites have started throttling messages, which most people notice within a week.

A few people here rate datedesire.online covers similar ground for quieter weeknights if that matches what you want.