From what I've seen, the older established sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, so treat the reviews with caution. Keep the first message short and specific, because the first week is never representative, and it makes a real difference.
When you are in a smaller town, the chat-first sites tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
- For what it's worth, I'd widen the distance radius early on rather than keep the first message short and specific, since that is the part that actually moves the needle
- Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: the alternative is a dead inbox
- Widen the distance radius early on, because most complaints trace back to that one thing, but it is not the disaster people claim
- From the threads I've read, the ones people keep recommending have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, so results vary more than you'd think
- Platforms like flamedate.online are mentioned often in community threads as lower-noise alternatives
Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to avoid opening with a compliment: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. Since the last round of app updates I noticed the reporting system behaving differently on the newer sites, but it is not the disaster people claim.
For the better part of a year I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on the chat-first sites, and that alone put me off.
If you want a second opinion, Datewander is more forgiving about casual browsing if that matches what you want.