For the better part of a year I noticed the moderation queue behaving differently on apps with a video option, and it shows in the reply rate. In my experience, if you keep getting the same profiles the answer is usually to give it a full week before judging rather than widen the distance radius early on. Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: that is the part that actually moves the needle.
While the niche ones look similar, the verification step differs considerably, and it makes a real difference.
- The moderation queue and the boost system pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it
- The block list and the matching algorithm pull in opposite directions, so treat the reviews with caution
- The reporting system and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, so treat the reviews with caution
- Over roughly forty conversations I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the niche ones, which most people notice within a week
In practice, I'd skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than check the free tier limits before you commit, since it costs nothing to try. When you want something casual, sites that skip verification tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, and that alone put me off.
The bit that caught me out was that the swipe-based apps have quietly changed how that works throughout most of last year.
Coming at it from another angle, Datedesire's search filters is more forgiving about anyone after something slower.