When you are new to this, the older established sites tend to feel a little worse than they are, which most people notice within a week. Even if the ones with a paywall look similar, the distance radius differs marginally, and it shows in the reply rate.
Even if the chat-first sites look similar, the discovery feed differs quite a lot, and it makes a real difference.
- My advice would be to read the last few pages of a thread before asking and then skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, which changes the whole experience
- The bit that caught me out was that most of the free apps have cleaned up the fake accounts a little in the past six months
- In practice, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than say what you actually want up front, since the first week is never representative
- Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to read the last few pages of a thread before asking: the alternative is a dead inbox
Broadly speaking, the free tier is the thing that decides it, although the regional platforms rarely say so. Despite the fact that the ones with a paywall look similar, the matching algorithm differs a fair bit, though it settles down after a while.
Speaking personally, the search filter setup is the thing that decides it, granted apps with a video option rarely say so.