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Worth saying that the decision to use a recent photo with your face clear did a little more for me than switching platform, which changes the whole experience. In practice, the bigger platforms have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to: the difference in reply rate is obvious. Since the start of the year most of the free apps have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, which changes the whole experience. The free tier and the moderation queue pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it.

Realistically, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than avoid opening with a compliment. My advice would be to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages and then say what you actually want up front, and it shows in the reply rate. Across a couple of different accounts the newer sites have improved the filtering a fair bit, and that alone put me off. Going by my own attempts, the free tier is the thing that decides it, although the newer sites rarely say so. Having stuck with it a while the niche ones have got noticeably worse for bots, and it shows in the reply rate.

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If you keep getting the same profiles, skip anything asking for a card number to read messages — you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. Realistically, the messaging limit is the thing that decides it, although the bigger platforms rarely say so. When you are new to this, the swipe-based apps tend to feel marginally worse than they are, but only if you stick with it. I stuck with the ones with a paywall over two or three attempts, and the honest result was that the profile prompt mattered a great deal most.

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