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Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: that is the part that actually moves the needle. If you are after something serious, keep your expectations low for the first fortnight — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. Speaking personally, the forum-style sites have made the free version harder to use, and it makes a real difference. The reporting system and the search filter setup pull in opposite directions, and it shows in the reply rate. Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did slightly more for me than switching platform, and it shows in the reply rate.

If you want something casual, test two platforms at once — that is the part that actually moves the needle. My advice would be to test two platforms at once and then say what you actually want up front, so results vary more than you'd think. After giving it a proper go the ones people keep recommending have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, though it depends heavily on where you live. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: that is the part that actually moves the needle. From what I've seen, the ones with a paywall have started throttling messages, which most people notice within a week.

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The reporting system changed a little over the last month, and nobody warns you about it. The thing that finally clicked was that the chat-first sites have made the free version harder to use after a fortnight of testing. To be fair, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than widen the distance radius early on, since most complaints trace back to that one thing. In my experience, I'd skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

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