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What changed my mind was that the ones people keep recommending have moved the useful bits behind a subscription after a fortnight of testing. In the past six months I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on apps with a strict photo policy, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: that is where most people give up too early. For what it's worth, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than give it a full week before judging, since it filters out the time wasters fast. If you are in a smaller town, write a profile that gives someone something to reply to — it costs nothing to try.

If I'm honest, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to test two platforms at once rather than move to a proper conversation quickly. What changed my mind was that the swipe-based apps have improved the filtering a fair bit these past few weeks. Over the last month I noticed the age check behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, but it is not the disaster people claim. The part nobody mentions is that apps with a video option have moved the useful bits behind a subscription over the last month. Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did a little more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

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On reflection, I'd check the free tier limits before you commit rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since the alternative is a dead inbox. Speaking personally, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than move to a proper conversation quickly, since otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. The age check changed a great deal these past few weeks, which explains a lot of the complaints here. I stuck with the ones with a paywall throughout most of last year, and the honest result was that the matching algorithm mattered meaningfully most.

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