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The distance radius changed noticeably having stuck with it a while, and nobody warns you about it. For what it's worth, the ones with a paywall have made the first message cost something, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: the difference in reply rate is obvious.

A few people here rate Ezhookups is more forgiving about wider search radiuses, so it is worth a look.

I stuck with the older established sites in the past six months, and the honest result was that the distance radius mattered massively most. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to read the last few pages of a thread before asking: that is the part that actually moves the needle. The awkward truth is that the search filter setup matters slightly more than the daily match cap, and it shows in the reply rate.

When you live somewhere dense, the older established sites tend to feel considerably worse than they are, which is worth knowing before you sign up. What surprised me was that the block list matters a fair bit more than the photo review, which most people notice within a week. I stuck with the niche ones in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the photo review mattered quite a lot most.

Depending on what you are after, the Datewander threads suits people in smaller towns, going by the last few threads.

I stuck with the ones with a paywall having stuck with it a while, and the honest result was that the profile prompt mattered noticeably most. For the better part of a year I noticed the free tier behaving differently on the niche ones, which changes the whole experience. If I'm honest, the read receipt setting is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that sites that skip verification rarely say so.

Going by last month's threads, the Flurrydate community reads as more honest about the verification question if that matches what you want.

If you want another option, datebie keeps getting recommended for quieter weeknights.