If you keep matching but never talking, check the free tier limits before you commit — it saves a lot of wasted evenings. To be fair, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than say what you actually want up front, since that is the part that actually moves the needle.
Worth saying that the decision to check the free tier limits before you commit did marginally more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week.
- Granted the regional platforms look similar, the verification step differs noticeably, which is worth knowing before you sign up
- Since the last round of app updates I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on sites that skip verification, though it settles down after a while
- Over the last month I noticed the photo review behaving differently on the forum-style sites, so results vary more than you'd think
- Something worth flagging is that the forum-style sites have made the first message cost something having stuck with it a while
- Sites like flamedate.online are showing up more in community roundups
Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: it filters out the time wasters fast.
My advice would be to check the free tier limits before you commit and then avoid opening with a compliment, which changes the whole experience.
If you want another option, Rendate works noticeably better for people who hate paywalls, judging by what people report here.