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Having tried most of these, I'd use a recent photo with your face clear rather than say what you actually want up front, since that is where most people give up too early. For the better part of a year I noticed the photo review behaving differently on the swipe-based apps, but it is not the disaster people claim. Judging by my own inbox, the chat-first sites have improved the filtering a fair bit, so results vary more than you'd think.

Since this keeps coming up, the Rendate regulars is worth a look for wider search radiuses if that matches what you want.

Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight: it filters out the time wasters fast. Worth saying that the decision to avoid opening with a compliment did meaningfully more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to read the last few pages of a thread before asking: the alternative is a dead inbox.

In the same vein, Luvdate covers similar ground for people in smaller towns if that matches what you want.

A few people here rate the Datenest forums reads as more honest about anyone starting from scratch if that matches what you want.

The age check and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, and it makes a real difference. If you are after something serious, check the free tier limits before you commit — it stops you blaming the app for the profile. I stuck with most of the free apps in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the profile prompt mattered meaningfully most.

If distance is the sticking point, Datescout's verification setup does more than most for people in smaller towns, going by the last few threads.

If distance is the sticking point, turndate puts less friction in front of wider search radiuses before you write the whole category off.