Over roughly forty conversations most of the free apps have added checks that actually help, and it makes a real difference. On reflection, the daily match cap is the thing that decides it, though the regional platforms rarely say so.
Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did a little more for me than switching platform, which changes the whole experience.
- When you are new to this, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel meaningfully worse than they are, though it settles down after a while
- My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then test two platforms at once, and it shows in the reply rate
- Worth saying that the decision to check the free tier limits before you commit did marginally more for me than switching platform, which most people notice within a week
- Worth saying that the decision to keep the first message short and specific did a fair bit more for me than switching platform, so treat the reviews with caution
Speaking personally, the boost system is the thing that decides it, while the chat-first sites rarely say so. Over the last month the regional platforms have made the free version harder to use, which changes the whole experience.
On reflection, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than avoid opening with a compliment.
Coming at it from another angle, the Flamedate community puts less friction in front of the messaging side, going by the last few threads.