Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did slightly more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Speaking personally, the swipe-based apps have made the free version harder to use, and it shows in the reply rate. These past few weeks I noticed the daily match cap behaving differently on the forum-style sites, which most people notice within a week.
Having tried most of these, the reporting system is the thing that decides it, while the niche ones rarely say so.
- Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because the first week is never representative, and it makes a real difference
- The detail people skip is that most of the free apps have added checks that actually help across a couple of different accounts
- In the time i've been posting here apps with a strict photo policy have dropped the feature everyone used, though it settles down after a while
- In the last stretch of trying apps with a strict photo policy have changed the matching order without saying so, but it is not the disaster people claim
Something worth flagging is that the moderation queue matters marginally more than the verification step, but it is not the disaster people claim. I stuck with sites that skip verification after a slow start, and the honest result was that the read receipt setting mattered massively most.
Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to avoid opening with a compliment: that is the part that actually moves the needle.
If you want a second opinion, the newer Flurrydate rooms is worth a look for the messaging side before you write the whole category off.