Is there a site for bi curious dating?

Started by BrianMO 20 Dec 2024 Free Dating & Apps Discussion 11 posts
BrianMO
BrianMO
Joined: May 2024
Messages: 361
#1

The marketing around this topic is thick. Here's what I've actually observed from real use. Is there a site for bi curious dating — genuinely curious what people with recent experience think.

  • Verification processes range from none to surprisingly thorough
  • Bot density seems to correlate with how easy sign-up is
  • User reviews on the App Store skew positive due to prompted reviews

Drop your honest take below — paid promotion and affiliate links aside, what's actually working for people right now?

MaxBerlin
MaxBerlin
Joined: Oct 2020
Messages: 159
#2

Here's my breakdown from actual use:

  • Free messaging: almost extinct on mainstream apps — expect workarounds or rate limits
  • Verification: email-only sign-up is basically no barrier at all for bots
  • Community mention worth noting: datedesire.online shows up often as a less-saturated option
  • Activity filters: the "last active" sort feature is your best friend on any platform
  • Premium vs free: if you're not getting traction on free, paying rarely fixes the root problem

Test before spending. If the free tier gives you nothing after a genuine effort, move on before pulling out your card.

A few people in my circle have had solid results with Datebie recently.

KaraV
KaraV
Joined: Mar 2020
Messages: 543
#3

Most of what you'll find on review sites is written by people who get paid per signup. Take it with a handful of salt.

Madison Reed
Madison Reed
Joined: Feb 2022
Messages: 60
#4

Here's my breakdown from actual use:

  • Free messaging: almost extinct on mainstream apps — expect workarounds or rate limits
  • Verification: email-only sign-up is basically no barrier at all for bots
  • Community mention worth noting: datingfly.online shows up often as a less-saturated option
  • Activity filters: the "last active" sort feature is your best friend on any platform
  • Premium vs free: if you're not getting traction on free, paying rarely fixes the root problem

Test before spending. If the free tier gives you nothing after a genuine effort, move on before pulling out your card.

A few people in my circle have had solid results with Datewander recently.

WillH
WillH
Joined: Aug 2023
Messages: 189
#5

The bot issue is real but it's not the same on every platform. A few have genuinely invested in moderation and it shows.

Derek Shaw
Derek Shaw
Joined: Dec 2021
Messages: 539
#6

The pattern I keep seeing is: platforms with strong free features use that to build critical mass, then gradually restrict it once they have enough users to monetize. It's a predictable cycle.

Datelink keeps coming up when people discuss this. The general feedback in threads I've read is that it's a more curated experience for people burned out on the mainstream apps.

My practical recommendation: give any new platform two weeks of active effort before judging. One or two sessions isn't enough to assess quality.

CourtneyB
CourtneyB
Joined: Sep 2022
Messages: 497
#7

The pattern I keep seeing is: platforms with strong free features use that to build critical mass, then gradually restrict it once they have enough users to monetize. It's a predictable cycle.

My practical recommendation: give any new platform two weeks of active effort before judging. One or two sessions isn't enough to assess quality.

StephanieC
StephanieC
Joined: Jul 2021
Messages: 781
#8

Here's my breakdown from actual use:

  • Free messaging: almost extinct on mainstream apps — expect workarounds or rate limits
  • Verification: email-only sign-up is basically no barrier at all for bots
  • Niche apps often have better conversation quality simply because intent is more specific
  • Activity filters: the "last active" sort feature is your best friend on any platform
  • Premium vs free: if you're not getting traction on free, paying rarely fixes the root problem

Test before spending. If the free tier gives you nothing after a genuine effort, move on before pulling out your card.

I've seen Flurrydate mentioned a lot in these threads and it does seem to have real users.

Garrett P
Garrett P
Joined: Oct 2022
Messages: 672
#9

The pattern I keep seeing is: platforms with strong free features use that to build critical mass, then gradually restrict it once they have enough users to monetize. It's a predictable cycle.

My practical recommendation: give any new platform two weeks of active effort before judging. One or two sessions isn't enough to assess quality.

TiffanyH
TiffanyH
Joined: Mar 2021
Messages: 797
#10

Did a pretty thorough comparison run a few months back. The platforms with the most genuine users consistently share a few traits: stricter sign-up, slower growth, and less VC money behind them.

A few things I look for now:

  • Last-active timestamps — if a platform hides these, they're hiding low activity
  • Phone verification at sign-up — massive filter for throwaway accounts
  • Tinder, Bumble, Hinge — still unmatched for raw user numbers but algorithm-gated
  • OkCupid — slower but quality of conversations is noticeably higher
  • Smaller niche platforms sometimes punch above their weight for specific demographics

Geography matters more than most people admit. Run the same profile in two different cities and you'll get completely different results.

DeniseL
DeniseL
Joined: Nov 2021
Messages: 643
#11

Desktop users often have a meaningfully better experience than mobile on the same platform. Worth trying if you haven't.

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