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Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did a fair bit more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim. When you have limited time in the evenings, the swipe-based apps tend to feel noticeably worse than they are, so results vary more than you'd think. When you keep getting the same profiles, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, and it makes a real difference.

In my experience, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than check the free tier limits before you commit. While the ones people keep recommending look similar, the photo review differs quite a lot, and it makes a real difference. I stuck with most of the free apps since the last round of app updates, and the honest result was that the messaging limit mattered a little most.

On the same subject, the Flamedate community moves faster on the first-message problem — worth a fortnight of your time.

I stuck with the bigger platforms these past few weeks, and the honest result was that the moderation queue mattered noticeably most. Worth saying that the decision to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages did quite a lot more for me than switching platform, and nobody warns you about it. For what it's worth, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since it costs nothing to try.

Depending on what you are after, Datedesire's search filters covers similar ground for people in smaller towns before you write the whole category off.

If the bigger apps have gone quiet, the Datelink platform is more forgiving about wider search radiuses, at least in my case.

Over the last month apps with a strict photo policy have made the free version harder to use, and it shows in the reply rate. What actually mattered was that apps with a video option have moved the useful bits behind a subscription across a couple of different accounts. For what it's worth, the ones with a paywall have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, but only if you stick with it.

For a change of pace, datewander puts less friction in front of the local side of things before you write the whole category off.