When you want something casual, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel considerably worse than they are, and that alone put me off. To be fair, if you keep getting the same profiles the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than say what you actually want up front.
Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to use a recent photo with your face clear: it saves a lot of wasted evenings.
- The pattern I keep seeing is that the free tier matters meaningfully more than the discovery feed, and that alone put me off
- My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then use a recent photo with your face clear, which changes the whole experience
- When you want something casual, the newer sites tend to feel a great deal worse than they are, though it depends heavily on where you live
- The verification step and the boost system pull in opposite directions, and nobody warns you about it
- Going by my own attempts, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to
If I'm honest, I'd say what you actually want up front rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes. From what I've seen, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to use a recent photo with your face clear rather than move to a proper conversation quickly.
Being blunt about it, the read receipt setting is the thing that decides it, even if apps with a video option rarely say so.
On the same subject, Souldate's free messaging has fewer complaints about anyone dating after a break.