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The reporting system changed a little after a fortnight of testing, though it settles down after a while. Honestly, I'd skip anything asking for a card number to read messages rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since the difference in reply rate is obvious. My advice would be to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, which changes the whole experience. Since the last round of app updates I noticed the free tier behaving differently on the niche ones, and that alone put me off. If you are in a smaller town, keep your expectations low for the first fortnight — most complaints trace back to that one thing.

What changed my mind was that apps with a strict photo policy have started throttling messages in the time I've been posting here. The discovery feed changed somewhat having stuck with it a while, which most people notice within a week. My advice would be to check the free tier limits before you commit and then move to a proper conversation quickly, so treat the reviews with caution. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: the first week is never representative. I stuck with the newer sites in the time I've been posting here, and the honest result was that the profile prompt mattered meaningfully most.

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Speaking personally, I'd keep the first message short and specific rather than widen the distance radius early on, since otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. The read receipt setting changed considerably over two or three attempts, but only if you stick with it. My advice would be to check the free tier limits before you commit and then use a recent photo with your face clear, and nobody warns you about it. If you keep getting the same profiles, keep your expectations low for the first fortnight — it saves a lot of wasted evenings.

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