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Although the swipe-based apps look similar, the photo review differs meaningfully, and that alone put me off. On reflection, the newer sites have made the first message cost something, which most people notice within a week. On reflection, I'd report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than give it a full week before judging, since most complaints trace back to that one thing. In my experience, the age check is the thing that decides it, although the ones with a paywall rarely say so. The block list changed a fair bit over the last month, though it settles down after a while.

Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: that is where most people give up too early. Having tried most of these, the verification step is the thing that decides it, although the niche ones rarely say so. Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did a great deal more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference. Skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, and nobody warns you about it. Though the forum-style sites look similar, the search filter setup differs quite a lot, though it settles down after a while.

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From what I've seen, the niche ones have quietly changed how that works, which explains a lot of the complaints here. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to check the free tier limits before you commit: the alternative is a dead inbox. Speaking personally, if you are new to this the answer is usually to use a recent photo with your face clear rather than keep the first message short and specific. Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did slightly more for me than switching platform, and it makes a real difference.

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