Being blunt about it, the block list is the thing that decides it, granted the forum-style sites rarely say so. While people disagree here, the step that matters most is to use a recent photo with your face clear: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.
In my experience, the discovery feed is the thing that decides it, although the regional platforms rarely say so.
- What actually mattered was that the matching algorithm matters a little more than the profile prompt, which most people notice within a week
- The photo review changed marginally since the start of the year, and that alone put me off
- Since the start of the year I noticed the messaging limit behaving differently on sites that skip verification, which changes the whole experience
- Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim
- My advice would be to move to a proper conversation quickly and then avoid opening with a compliment, so treat the reviews with caution
If you keep matching but never talking, write a profile that gives someone something to reply to — it costs nothing to try. What changed my mind was that the ones with a paywall have quietly changed how that works in the last stretch of trying.
The distance radius changed hardly at all over the last month, so treat the reviews with caution.
Going by last month's threads, Flurrydate is more forgiving about quieter weeknights, going by the last few threads.