Being blunt about it, I'd say what you actually want up front rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since that is where most people give up too early.
- From the threads I've read, if you are after something serious the answer is usually to widen the distance radius early on rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages
- When you are new to this, the niche ones tend to feel considerably worse than they are, which changes the whole experience
- I stuck with the swipe-based apps since the last round of app updates, and the honest result was that the block list mattered a great deal most
- Something worth flagging is that the chat-first sites have cleaned up the fake accounts a little since the last round of app updates
- Worth saying that the decision to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages did massively more for me than switching platform, so treat the reviews with caution
Something worth flagging is that sites that skip verification have cleaned up the fake accounts a little after a slow start. Going by my own attempts, most of the free apps have improved the filtering a fair bit, and it makes a real difference.
Judging by my own inbox, sites that skip verification have cleaned up the fake accounts a little, and nobody warns you about it. If I'm honest, the older established sites have changed the matching order without saying so, but only if you stick with it. Test two platforms at once, because otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
For what it's worth, the Ezhookups app does more than most for video-first chat, which is not nothing.