In the past six months I noticed the daily match cap behaving differently on the regional platforms, which is worth knowing before you sign up. After giving it a proper go I noticed the read receipt setting behaving differently on sites that skip verification, but it is not the disaster people claim.
For what it's worth, I'd read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings.
- When you want something casual, the forum-style sites tend to feel a fair bit worse than they are, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- In the time i've been posting here I noticed the discovery feed behaving differently on the forum-style sites, which changes the whole experience
- Having tried most of these, if you have tried three apps already the answer is usually to test two platforms at once rather than widen the distance radius early on
Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to keep the first message short and specific: it saves a lot of wasted evenings. Move to a proper conversation quickly, because that is where most people give up too early, though it settles down after a while.
Worth saying that the decision to say what you actually want up front did quite a lot more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim. Broadly speaking, the free tier is the thing that decides it, though apps with a video option rarely say so.
For what it's worth, Souldate keeps getting recommended for the first-message problem — worth a fortnight of your time.