When you live somewhere dense, the ones with a paywall tend to feel a great deal worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it. Realistically, if you want something casual the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than give it a full week before judging.
Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to: the first week is never representative.
- What actually mattered was that sites that skip verification have added checks that actually help in the last stretch of trying
- If you are new to this, give it a full week before judging — the difference in reply rate is obvious
- Check the free tier limits before you commit, because otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day, but only if you stick with it
- Honestly, the forum-style sites have made the first message cost something, and it makes a real difference
- In my experience, the older established sites have added checks that actually help, but only if you stick with it
When you have limited time in the evenings, the older established sites tend to feel somewhat worse than they are, which explains a lot of the complaints here.
If I'm honest, if you want something casual the answer is usually to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than avoid opening with a compliment.
In the same vein, the newer Datescout rooms handles this differently from casual browsing.