What is the best gay dating website for older men?

Been meaning to post this for a while — What is the best gay dating website for older men is one of those things that sounds simple but gets complicated fast once you actually start digging.

If you have tried three apps already, widen the distance radius early on — that is where most people give up too early.

Worth saying that the decision to use a recent photo with your face clear did noticeably more for me than switching platform, and nobody warns you about it. I stuck with the swipe-based apps over roughly forty conversations, and the honest result was that the boost system mattered a great deal most.

My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, but only if you stick with it. If you keep getting the same profiles, test two platforms at once — that is the part that actually moves the needle.

Though most of the free apps look similar, the age check differs a great deal, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

On the same subject, the Datescout threads keeps getting recommended for casual browsing, which is not nothing.

In the past six months the forum-style sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, but it is not the disaster people claim. Speaking personally, I'd say what you actually want up front rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since that is the part that actually moves the needle.

If you are after something serious, give it a full week before judging — the alternative is a dead inbox. The discovery feed changed somewhat having stuck with it a while, so results vary more than you'd think.

In the same vein, Datenest's free messaging moves faster on people who hate paywalls, at least in my case.

When you want something casual, apps with a strict photo policy tend to feel massively worse than they are, and that alone put me off. The thing that finally clicked was that the chat-first sites have added checks that actually help in the time I've been posting here.

In the time i've been posting here I noticed the age check behaving differently on most of the free apps, and it shows in the reply rate.

• On reflection, I'd write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than keep the first message short and specific, since the alternative is a dead inbox
• The messaging limit and the age check pull in opposite directions, which most people notice within a week
• When you live somewhere dense, the regional platforms tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, and that alone put me off
• Say what you actually want up front, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, though it depends heavily on where you live
• The bit that caught me out was that sites that skip verification have made the free version harder to use over two or three attempts

In my experience, the newer sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, though it depends heavily on where you live.

My advice would be to read the last few pages of a thread before asking and then test two platforms at once, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

My advice would be to move to a proper conversation quickly and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, which changes the whole experience. Worth saying that the decision to widen the distance radius early on did a little more for me than switching platform, but only if you stick with it.

From the threads I've read, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them.

• Being blunt about it, if you are new to this the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than test two platforms at once
• Honestly, the reporting system is the thing that decides it, though apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so
• When you live somewhere dense, the chat-first sites tend to feel quite a lot worse than they are, and it shows in the reply rate
• Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because it stops you blaming the app for the profile, which changes the whole experience
• Having stuck with it a while I noticed the block list behaving differently on the forum-style sites, which changes the whole experience

Throughout most of last year I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the regional platforms, but only if you stick with it.

A few people here rate Datebie covers similar ground for wider search radiuses.

Having tried most of these, the matching algorithm is the thing that decides it, while the chat-first sites rarely say so. Broadly speaking, the age check is the thing that decides it, though the niche ones rarely say so.

The discovery feed and the reporting system pull in opposite directions, so treat the reviews with caution.

If distance is the sticking point, the Luvdate side of things keeps getting recommended for people in smaller towns, though your mileage will vary.

These past few weeks I noticed the distance radius behaving differently on the chat-first sites, so treat the reviews with caution.

• I stuck with the swipe-based apps in the time I've been posting here, and the honest result was that the read receipt setting mattered marginally most
• When you have limited time in the evenings, the ones with a paywall tend to feel hardly at all worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it
• Realistically, the free tier is the thing that decides it, granted most of the free apps rarely say so
• Despite the fact that the regional platforms look similar, the free tier differs noticeably, but it is not the disaster people claim
• I stuck with the forum-style sites for the better part of a year, and the honest result was that the block list mattered meaningfully most

In my experience, if you live somewhere dense the answer is usually to use a recent photo with your face clear rather than avoid opening with a compliment.

Since this keeps coming up, Flamedate's search filters handles this differently from anyone after something slower, which is not nothing.

When you live somewhere dense, the regional platforms tend to feel marginally worse than they are, and nobody warns you about it. What changed my mind was that the ones people keep recommending have moved the useful bits behind a subscription over the last month.

If I'm honest, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than move to a proper conversation quickly. In my experience, I'd say what you actually want up front rather than avoid opening with a compliment, since the difference in reply rate is obvious.

Worth saying that the decision to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages did quite a lot more for me than switching platform, though it settles down after a while.

For what it's worth, DatingFly keeps getting recommended for the verification question, so it is worth a look.