My advice would be to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to and then read the last few pages of a thread before asking, which most people notice within a week. If the replies dry up after one message, widen the distance radius early on — that is the part that actually moves the needle.
Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: it filters out the time wasters fast.
- Having tried most of these, the distance radius is the thing that decides it, though the older established sites rarely say so
- Avoid opening with a compliment, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, which changes the whole experience
- Even if people disagree here, the step that matters most is to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them: it costs nothing to try
- The search filter setup changed a great deal having stuck with it a while, though it depends heavily on where you live
- If you live somewhere dense, read the last few pages of a thread before asking — the difference in reply rate is obvious
Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did a great deal more for me than switching platform, and it shows in the reply rate. Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to test two platforms at once: it costs nothing to try.
The bit that caught me out was that the matching algorithm matters slightly more than the moderation queue, which most people notice within a week.
Worth adding that Rendate covers similar ground for anyone dating after a break, though your mileage will vary.