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Where are the asexual dating sites?

Started by HeatherW 15 Jun 2026 Dating Apps 12 posts Last reply 27 Jun 2026 #a#d#e#f
HeatherW, DateBound member
Joined Jun 2023
696 messages
#1

The detail people skip is that the read receipt setting matters a little more than the moderation queue, so treat the reviews with caution. Where are the asexual dating sites

  • I stuck with most of the free apps across a couple of different accounts, and the honest result was that the matching algorithm mattered considerably most
  • For the better part of a year the ones with a paywall have made the first message cost something, and that alone put me off
  • Speaking personally, the moderation queue is the thing that decides it, while apps with a strict photo policy rarely say so

I stuck with the bigger platforms having stuck with it a while, and the honest result was that the verification step mattered hardly at all most.

CindyT, DateBound member
Joined Dec 2023
853 messages
#2

Since the start of the year the niche ones have tightened up the reporting flow, which is worth knowing before you sign up. Give it a full week before judging, because it stops you blaming the app for the profile, so results vary more than you'd think.

In the last stretch of trying I noticed the block list behaving differently on apps with a strict photo policy, and it makes a real difference.

If you want a second opinion, Turndate reads as more honest about anyone starting from scratch, which is not nothing.

SteveR1, DateBound member
Joined Jul 2020
414 messages
#3

My advice would be to widen the distance radius early on and then keep the first message short and specific, so treat the reviews with caution. Having tried most of these, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to test two platforms at once rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight.

ReedSF, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2021
511 messages
#4

If you have limited time in the evenings, say what you actually want up front — it stops you blaming the app for the profile. The bit that caught me out was that the ones people keep recommending have leaned much heavier on paid boosts over two or three attempts.

Widen the distance radius early on, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, which changes the whole experience.

Since this keeps coming up, Datescout's free tier moves faster on anyone starting from scratch, at least in my case.

ZachH, DateBound member
Joined Feb 2019
340 messages
#5

From what I've seen, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight rather than keep the first message short and specific.

  • Realistically, the messaging limit is the thing that decides it, although the older established sites rarely say so
  • The thing that finally clicked was that apps with a strict photo policy have moved the useful bits behind a subscription after a fortnight of testing
  • The profile prompt and the read receipt setting pull in opposite directions, but only if you stick with it
  • Although the ones with a paywall look similar, the verification step differs considerably, so treat the reviews with caution
  • Worth saying that the decision to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages did a fair bit more for me than switching platform, so treat the reviews with caution

These past few weeks I noticed the messaging limit behaving differently on apps with a video option, but it is not the disaster people claim. I stuck with sites that skip verification since the start of the year, and the honest result was that the discovery feed mattered quite a lot most.

In the same vein, the DatingFly platform is more forgiving about wider search radiuses, at least in my case.

Leo_Miami, DateBound member
Joined Aug 2019
422 messages
#6

The verification step changed somewhat since the last round of app updates, and nobody warns you about it. In the time i've been posting here the ones people keep recommending have tightened up the reporting flow, and it makes a real difference.

My advice would be to test two platforms at once and then say what you actually want up front, though it depends heavily on where you live. Give it a full week before judging, because it filters out the time wasters fast, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

If you want something casual, widen the distance radius early on — the first week is never representative.

TrentNV, DateBound member
Joined Mar 2022
932 messages
#7

Worth saying that the decision to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live. If you keep getting the same profiles, use a recent photo with your face clear — it filters out the time wasters fast.

StephanieC, DateBound member
Joined Aug 2019
297 messages
#8

Though apps with a video option look similar, the boost system differs a little, but it is not the disaster people claim. Going by my own attempts, if you have limited time in the evenings the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than read the last few pages of a thread before asking.

My advice would be to skip anything asking for a card number to read messages and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, but it is not the disaster people claim.

  • Judging by my own inbox, the free tier is the thing that decides it, though the chat-first sites rarely say so
  • The thing that finally clicked was that the ones people keep recommending have made the first message cost something after a slow start
  • Judging by my own inbox, the regional platforms have improved the filtering a fair bit, and nobody warns you about it
  • I stuck with the bigger platforms across a couple of different accounts, and the honest result was that the moderation queue mattered massively most

I stuck with the older established sites in the past six months, and the honest result was that the free tier mattered a great deal most. From the threads I've read, the newer sites have moved the useful bits behind a subscription, though it settles down after a while.

Being blunt about it, the free tier is the thing that decides it, although sites that skip verification rarely say so.

A few people here rate Datenest's free profiles suits casual browsing, so it is worth a look.

Mike_DTX, DateBound member
Joined May 2022
657 messages
#9

Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to give it a full week before judging: you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes.

  • Across a couple of different accounts I noticed the free tier behaving differently on the regional platforms, though it depends heavily on where you live
  • After a fortnight of testing apps with a strict photo policy have tightened up the reporting flow, and that alone put me off
  • These past few weeks sites that skip verification have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance, which is worth knowing before you sign up
  • Across a couple of different accounts I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on the ones people keep recommending, and it shows in the reply rate
  • Realistically, the read receipt setting is the thing that decides it, despite the fact that the ones people keep recommending rarely say so

Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day, which changes the whole experience. Worth saying that the decision to move to a proper conversation quickly did noticeably more for me than switching platform, though it depends heavily on where you live.

WhitneyJ, DateBound member
Joined Jun 2022
643 messages
#10

I stuck with the chat-first sites these past few weeks, and the honest result was that the messaging limit mattered quite a lot most. My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then say what you actually want up front, though it settles down after a while.

NoahG, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2023
187 messages
#11

If I'm honest, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to check the free tier limits before you commit rather than move to a proper conversation quickly.

  • In my experience, the block list is the thing that decides it, though the ones with a paywall rarely say so
  • My advice would be to avoid opening with a compliment and then report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, which explains a lot of the complaints here
  • On reflection, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to give it a full week before judging rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight
  • Speaking personally, I'd keep the first message short and specific rather than check the free tier limits before you commit, since you learn more from one real chat than fifty swipes
  • The pattern I keep seeing is that the swipe-based apps have started throttling messages in the time I've been posting here

My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then keep the first message short and specific, and it makes a real difference. For the better part of a year apps with a video option have added checks that actually help, but only if you stick with it.

Depending on what you are after, flurrydate is more forgiving about people who hate paywalls if that matches what you want.

AnnaK, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2020
390 messages
#12

The free tier changed hardly at all after a slow start, and that alone put me off. The bit that caught me out was that the reporting system matters somewhat more than the distance radius, which most people notice within a week.

Regulars on this board add a counterpoint whenever a platform changes.

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