What changed my mind was that the swipe-based apps have quietly changed how that works since the start of the year. Where are the free fwb dating sites — figured this community would have the most honest answers.
- I stuck with the forum-style sites in the last stretch of trying, and the honest result was that the discovery feed mattered noticeably most
- Move to a proper conversation quickly, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, which most people notice within a week
- If the replies dry up after one message, avoid opening with a compliment — that is the part that actually moves the needle
Also seen datedesire.online pop up in a few comparison threads recently. Though people disagree here, the step that matters most is to move to a proper conversation quickly: it costs nothing to try.
From what I've seen, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to keep your expectations low for the first fortnight rather than read the last few pages of a thread before asking.