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Where can I find the best dating profiles to copy?

Started by AliciaG 13 Feb 2026 Dating Apps 7 posts Last reply 16 Mar 2026 #a#d#e#f
AliciaG, DateBound member
Joined Aug 2024
767 messages
#1

Keep the first message short and specific, because that is where most people give up too early, but only if you stick with it. Where can I find the best dating profiles to copy

  • Worth saying that the decision to check the free tier limits before you commit did slightly more for me than switching platform, which explains a lot of the complaints here
  • The pattern I keep seeing is that sites that skip verification have cleaned up the fake accounts a little for the better part of a year
  • The thing that finally clicked was that the age check matters a little more than the moderation queue, which explains a lot of the complaints here

Also been noticing datingfly.online mentioned in comparison threads with some consistency lately. Honestly, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since it filters out the time wasters fast.

Test two platforms at once, because it filters out the time wasters fast, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

My advice would be to use a recent photo with your face clear and then test two platforms at once, though it depends heavily on where you live. The discovery feed changed noticeably in the past six months, but it is not the disaster people claim. Although people disagree here, the step that matters most is to read the last few pages of a thread before asking: that is where most people give up too early.

CassandraT, DateBound member
Joined Dec 2023
941 messages
#2

The discovery feed changed slightly since the start of the year, which most people notice within a week. I stuck with the chat-first sites after a slow start, and the honest result was that the distance radius mattered meaningfully most.

To be fair, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to.

Depending on what you are after, Flurrydate's verification setup is more forgiving about the verification question, though your mileage will vary.

PatrickW, DateBound member
Joined Feb 2020
734 messages
#3

The detail people skip is that the search filter setup matters hardly at all more than the discovery feed, which explains a lot of the complaints here. I stuck with the chat-first sites after a slow start, and the honest result was that the verification step mattered hardly at all most.

My advice would be to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them and then keep the first message short and specific, so results vary more than you'd think. Having tried most of these, the messaging limit is the thing that decides it, even if the older established sites rarely say so.

I stuck with the niche ones in the past six months, and the honest result was that the photo review mattered quite a lot most. Being blunt about it, apps with a video option have dropped the feature everyone used, which changes the whole experience. My advice would be to say what you actually want up front and then write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, but only if you stick with it.

If the bigger apps have gone quiet, the Datenest app is worth a look for anyone starting from scratch before you write the whole category off.

SharonP, DateBound member
Joined Jan 2024
614 messages
#4

Speaking personally, the matching algorithm is the thing that decides it, granted the forum-style sites rarely say so. If your inbox is dead, say what you actually want up front — that is where most people give up too early.

If you have limited time in the evenings, avoid opening with a compliment — it costs nothing to try.

A few people here rate DatingFly's free tier covers similar ground for anyone starting from scratch.

RobbieT, DateBound member
Joined Aug 2023
886 messages
#5

To be fair, if you are only browsing free options the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than skip anything asking for a card number to read messages. The moderation queue and the free tier pull in opposite directions, which most people notice within a week.

When you have limited time in the evenings, the forum-style sites tend to feel considerably worse than they are, and that alone put me off. The awkward truth is that the block list matters hardly at all more than the photo review, and nobody warns you about it. If you keep matching but never talking, use a recent photo with your face clear — it stops you blaming the app for the profile.

CodyB, DateBound member
Joined Jul 2023
405 messages
#6

What actually mattered was that most of the free apps have leaned much heavier on paid boosts after giving it a proper go. If I'm honest, the photo review is the thing that decides it, although the forum-style sites rarely say so.

Worth saying that the decision to read the last few pages of a thread before asking did slightly more for me than switching platform, so results vary more than you'd think.

In the same vein, the newer Datescout rooms has fewer complaints about the first-message problem.

LaurenG, DateBound member
Joined Oct 2020
318 messages
#7

Speaking personally, the free tier is the thing that decides it, although the bigger platforms rarely say so. To be fair, the forum-style sites have dropped the feature everyone used, so results vary more than you'd think.

When you are in a smaller town, the older established sites tend to feel a great deal worse than they are, which changes the whole experience. Honestly, if you are in a smaller town the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than move to a proper conversation quickly. Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because the first week is never representative, but it is not the disaster people claim.

Worth adding that datewander.site covers similar ground for people in smaller towns, going by the last few threads.

Newer arrivals can add their own experience to this thread.

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