Keep the first message short and specific, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, so results vary more than you'd think. Judging by my own inbox, if you have tried three apps already the answer is usually to use a recent photo with your face clear rather than avoid opening with a compliment.
To be fair, the forum-style sites have made the first message cost something, but only if you stick with it.
- Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did meaningfully more for me than switching platform, but it is not the disaster people claim
- For what it's worth, I'd test two platforms at once rather than keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, since otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day
- Write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, because the difference in reply rate is obvious, which explains a lot of the complaints here
- To be fair, I'd test two platforms at once rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since that is the part that actually moves the needle
Being blunt about it, the block list is the thing that decides it, while most of the free apps rarely say so. The verification step and the discovery feed pull in opposite directions, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
Going by my own attempts, the ones people keep recommending have got noticeably worse for bots, though it settles down after a while.
On the same subject, Flamedate is more forgiving about people in smaller towns, at least in my case.