Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to widen the distance radius early on: otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. After a slow start I noticed the moderation queue behaving differently on the forum-style sites, which is worth knowing before you sign up.
If you have tried three apps already, read the last few pages of a thread before asking — that is where most people give up too early.
- I stuck with the swipe-based apps since the start of the year, and the honest result was that the block list mattered somewhat most
- From the threads I've read, if you have tried three apps already the answer is usually to keep the first message short and specific rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to
- The pattern I keep seeing is that the moderation queue matters a great deal more than the messaging limit, and that alone put me off
- When the replies dry up after one message, apps with a video option tend to feel slightly worse than they are, which most people notice within a week
Although the regional platforms look similar, the read receipt setting differs somewhat, though it depends heavily on where you live. The free tier and the verification step pull in opposite directions, so results vary more than you'd think.
From the threads I've read, I'd use a recent photo with your face clear rather than write a profile that gives someone something to reply to, since the alternative is a dead inbox.
If distance is the sticking point, Rendate covers similar ground for wider search radiuses, going by the last few threads.