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Realistically, I'd avoid opening with a compliment rather than move to a proper conversation quickly, since the first week is never representative. Since the last round of app updates I noticed the matching algorithm behaving differently on the niche ones, but it is not the disaster people claim. Speaking personally, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than read the last few pages of a thread before asking. Even if the newer sites look similar, the daily match cap differs massively, which most people notice within a week. In the past six months I noticed the verification step behaving differently on the bigger platforms, though it settles down after a while.

The free tier changed meaningfully over roughly forty conversations, though it depends heavily on where you live. The part nobody mentions is that the boost system matters slightly more than the messaging limit, which is worth knowing before you sign up. In the last stretch of trying the ones people keep recommending have improved the filtering a fair bit, so results vary more than you'd think. The bit that caught me out was that the ones people keep recommending have made the first message cost something over roughly forty conversations. Worth saying that the decision to avoid opening with a compliment did marginally more for me than switching platform, which is worth knowing before you sign up.

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Read the last few pages of a thread before asking, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, but only if you stick with it. From what I've seen, the ones with a paywall have started throttling messages, but only if you stick with it. From the threads I've read, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to avoid opening with a compliment rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them. Being blunt about it, apps with a video option have changed the matching order without saying so, which changes the whole experience.

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