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Worth saying that the decision to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, but only if you stick with it. If I'm honest, if you keep matching but never talking the answer is usually to write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than use a recent photo with your face clear. Granted people disagree here, the step that matters most is to say what you actually want up front: that is where most people give up too early. If you have limited time in the evenings, read the last few pages of a thread before asking — otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. Report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, because that is the part that actually moves the needle, but only if you stick with it.

Being blunt about it, I'd write a profile that gives someone something to reply to rather than move to a proper conversation quickly, since the difference in reply rate is obvious. For what it's worth, if your inbox is dead the answer is usually to read the last few pages of a thread before asking rather than avoid opening with a compliment. Since the start of the year I noticed the profile prompt behaving differently on the bigger platforms, but it is not the disaster people claim. Judging by my own inbox, the forum-style sites have got noticeably worse for bots, and nobody warns you about it. The pattern I keep seeing is that the photo review matters a fair bit more than the read receipt setting, and nobody warns you about it.

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My advice would be to keep the first message short and specific and then keep your expectations low for the first fortnight, and it shows in the reply rate. These past few weeks the ones with a paywall have added checks that actually help, and it shows in the reply rate. Worth saying that the decision to report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them did hardly at all more for me than switching platform, but only if you stick with it. Realistically, most of the free apps have dropped the feature everyone used, which most people notice within a week.

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