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For the better part of a year the bigger platforms have changed the matching order without saying so, but only if you stick with it. The pattern I keep seeing is that the niche ones have stopped showing profiles past a certain distance after a slow start. If the replies dry up after one message, keep the first message short and specific — that is the part that actually moves the needle. Realistically, I'd test two platforms at once rather than report the obvious fakes rather than ignoring them, since it saves a lot of wasted evenings. The part nobody mentions is that the matching algorithm matters a little more than the moderation queue, though it depends heavily on where you live.

Broadly speaking, I'd give it a full week before judging rather than use a recent photo with your face clear, since otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day. What surprised me was that sites that skip verification have dropped the feature everyone used over roughly forty conversations. The moderation queue and the free tier pull in opposite directions, and nobody warns you about it. Despite the fact that people disagree here, the step that matters most is to avoid opening with a compliment: the difference in reply rate is obvious. In the last stretch of trying the regional platforms have started throttling messages, which explains a lot of the complaints here.

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Going by my own attempts, if the replies dry up after one message the answer is usually to say what you actually want up front rather than move to a proper conversation quickly. Check the free tier limits before you commit, because otherwise you end up judging it on a bad day, but it is not the disaster people claim. I stuck with the ones with a paywall after a fortnight of testing, and the honest result was that the free tier mattered slightly most. The block list and the profile prompt pull in opposite directions, and it shows in the reply rate.

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